All of us exhibit some "signs" just as we begin to get angry. Identify the anger signs in your child. For example, you may detect a certain "look in the eye," the tone of voice or the tightness in the body. Help your child to observe these signs right at the onset of anger.
Once children can identify the early signs of their anger, they can also learn to diffuse it by such methods as walking away or taking full and vigorous breaths.
Train your child to respond to your "signal" like your hand motion to stay calm. Give that signal as soon as your child starts "stewing" about something.
If your child is too young for such self-control techniques, use distraction as soon as you notice the child exhibiting an anger sign. A distraction, in order to be effective, has to be of interest to the child. For example suggest to your child, "Let's ride a bike" or, "Let's play ball."
Teach your children to talk about how they feel. Give them a language to express their feelings. For example, ask them how they feel. If they are too angry to talk or don't have the vocabulary to express their feelings, ask about the feelings relevant to the specific situation. Examples: "Do you feel embarrassed?" "Humiliated?" "Let down?" or, "Is your pride hurt?"
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